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Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, March 2018

17 Nov 17
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Experience using NLP for your Personal Evolution.

Learn NLP. Get a better life in every way we can measure and maybe those we can’t.

People like you train with us to think, feel, live and love at their very best. We can help you use your mind and body together with more flexibility, congruence and elegance than ever before.

It’s not magic. It’s just helping you be at your best.

Many people study personal development, psychology and influence for years to improve themselves and their effectiveness with others. Others will choose to transform those decades into days. With us, this starts with two intensive weekends.

You’ll start on Friday afternoon, when you’ll join us at our discrete central location. If you have been to Shanghai, you have probably been nearby already. We’ll jump straight in so you’ll be learning from the first moment. While we recommend that you don’t make any big plans during the event, since it’s an intensive weekend ahead, we’ll send you home by 10pm so you can be ready to start full of energy Saturday morning! Saturday is usually our longest day, finishing up before dinner so we can finish a little earlier Sunday afternoon. Then there is an extra session on Monday night.

Our sessions are personal, moving from one topic of personal relevance to the next. While we can support you delving into the explanations and theories, our focus for our time together is to help you develop skills that are meaningful, relevant and effective immediately, even as you get better and better with more practice and experience.

Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming in Beijing

29 May 17
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Learn NLP. Get a better life in every way we can measure and maybe those we can’t.

People like you train with us to think, feel, live and love at their very best. We can help you use your mind and body together with more flexibility, congruence and elegance than ever before.

It’s not magic. It’s just helping you be at your best.

Many people study personal development, psychology and influence for years to improve themselves and their effectiveness with others. Others will choose to transform those decades into days. With us, this starts with two intensive weekends.

You’ll start on Friday afternoon, when you’ll join us at our discrete central location. If you have been to Shanghai, you have probably been nearby already. We’ll jump straight in so you’ll be learning from the first moment. While we recommend that you don’t make any big plans during the event, since it’s an intensive weekend ahead, we’ll send you home by 10pm so you can be ready to start full of energy Saturday morning! Saturday is usually our longest day, finishing up before dinner so we can finish a little earlier Sunday afternoon. Then there is an extra session on Monday night of the first weekend.

Our sessions are personal, moving from one topic of personal relevance to the next. While we can support you delving into the explanations and theories, our focus for our time together is to help you develop skills that are meaningful, relevant and effective immediately, even as you get better and better with more practice and experience.

Our signature programme, the Practitioner is designed to equip Leaders, Change Agents and high-potential individuals with the intrapersonal and interpersonal skills they need most. Built upon decades of development internationally and tested across a decade in China, we are pleased to have our training recognised as being of the highest global quality.

A taste of what you will learn…

  • Change your state in an instant, so you can be at your best on demand,
  • Use Precision Language to cut through the fluff that leads to uncertainty, misunderstanding and flawed thinking,
  • Shift and expand perspectives, points of view and Perceptual Positions so you can become a more charismatic and persuasive communicator and insightful thinker,
  • Transform your internal representations so that your most important goals become compelling, attractive and attainable, while the anxieties, stressors and issues from the past or future can take their place and not get in your way,
  • Feel more present, more engaged and more connected with yourself and those around you,
  • Harness Metaphors in language, thought and behaviour for yourself and others,
  • Transform the past, the present and the future, so you can let go of past guilt, future anxieties and take charge of getting the life you want, and
  • Juggle! Yes, you’ll get the opportunity to learn to juggle. While not a compulsory activity – most people need to practice in their own time – almost everybody who wants to ends up being able to juggle.

Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

29 May 17
Daniel
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Learn NLP. Get a better life in every way we can measure and maybe those we can’t.

People like you train with us to think, feel, live and love at their very best. We can help you use your mind and body together with more flexibility, congruence and elegance than ever before.

It’s not magic. It’s just helping you be at your best.

Many people study personal development, psychology and influence for years to improve themselves and their effectiveness with others. Others will choose to transform those decades into days. With us, this starts with two intensive weekends.

You’ll start on Friday afternoon, when you’ll join us at our discrete central location. If you have been to Shanghai, you have probably been nearby already. We’ll jump straight in so you’ll be learning from the first moment. While we recommend that you don’t make any big plans during the event, since it’s an intensive weekend ahead, we’ll send you home by 10pm so you can be ready to start full of energy Saturday morning! Saturday is usually our longest day, finishing up before dinner so we can finish a little earlier Sunday afternoon. Then there is an extra session on Monday night.

Our sessions are personal, moving from one topic of personal relevance to the next. While we can support you delving into the explanations and theories, our focus for our time together is to help you develop skills that are meaningful, relevant and effective immediately, even as you get better and better with more practice and experience.

Introducing NLP with Paul James

16 Jun 17
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Join these sessions where you will be introduced to basic patterns and techniques of NLP. Guided by an experienced NLP Practitioner, Paul James, you will experience simple and effective approaches to creating change and helping you think, feel and perform better, whatever the situation.

The session will explore topics that are most relevant to the group, so if you have specific requests or interests, let us know in advance. Topics include:

  • Perceptual Positions
  • Outcome, Intention, Consequences
  • New Code Games
  • Reframing
  • Anchoring
  • Metaphors
  • Framing and Language Patterns
  • Rapport

You can scan the QR code here to register your place:

Introducing NLP with Paul James

16 Jun 17
Daniel
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Join these sessions where you will be introduced to basic patterns and techniques of NLP. Guided by an experienced NLP Practitioner, Paul James, you will experience simple and effective approaches to creating change and helping you think, feel and perform better, whatever the situation.

The session will explore topics that are most relevant to the group, so if you have specific requests or interests, let us know in advance. Topics include:

  • Perceptual Positions
  • Outcome, Intention, Consequences
  • New Code Games
  • Reframing
  • Anchoring
  • Metaphors
  • Framing and Language Patterns
  • Rapport

You can scan the QR code here to register your place:

You know more than you think: A Clean Space Practice

26 Apr 17
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We know that information is all around us. And knowledge and even wisdom are too – if you use your attention in the right way.

Here is a short exercise to help you get access more of what you know. To help you see with fresh eyes and listen with fresh ears, to help you connect with you might already intuitively know. You might want to allow yourself 5 minutes or so to complete the exercise and, if you can, another 5 minutes or so to process what you learn.

The exercise is very simple, to the point that it might even seem repetitious. This allows you to maintain focus to learn more than you had noticed before to look and really see. And since the foundation of lasting change is building in practices and habits to prime your awareness and habitual thoughts, you can use this regularly as a Practice. So let’s try it out and see what you discover:

Step 1: Select your context.
Select some topic to focus upon for this exercise. It could be a goal you have been working on. Or a relationship that you have been thinking about. Or a problem you are facing. For the first few times, you might want to avoid emotionally charged topics to get used to this simple process.

Step 2: Setup your space.
Choose a physical location that can represent that context. You could identify a chair that is in your room. Or an imaginary circle on the ground. Or even a whole room if you have the space. The intention is to have something on which you can focus your attention so if you don’t have so much space, you can use objects – even something like a coffee cup or a juggling ball – to represent the context.

Step 3: “What do you know from here?”
Step into that space (or focus on that object) and ask yourself, “What do I know from here?” If you are coaching someone, you can ask them “What do you know from here?”

Step 4: “And what else do you know from here?”
After the initial response and remaining in that space (mental or physical), ask yourself again, “And what else do I know from here?” Allow yourself to come up with another answer. The challenge at this stage is to keep yourself (or your client) focused on the topic – and that is where the value can be found: You will then repeat the question again and again, for a total of six times. You might repeat back or note the previous answer to prompt yourself to search more intently for an answer.

Step 5: “And now what do you know?”
Having gained more information about what you ‘know’ it is time to reintegrate that knowledge. Allow yourself to do this in whatever way feels appropriate.

 

We often find that the initial answers to Steps 3 and 4 are fairly superficial yet by persisting with the questioning, surprisingly rich insights emerge. To take the process further, you might identify another space (or spaces) that knows something about the context and repeat Steps 3-5. For example, if your ‘context’ was your relationship with your boss, you could select your “desired career” as another space, giving yourself an opportunity to think about your relationship with your boss from the perspective of your desired career.

(While this exercise is aimed at adults, it is sufficiently simple that even a child could do it, especially if guided by a parent.)

Join our session on Acceptance, Forgiveness and Intimacy with NLP led by Senior NLP Trainer, Daniel Smith

Acceptance, Forgiveness and Intimacy with NLP

23 Nov 16
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Join us to learn more about NLP in general with our community of Practitioners and enthusiasts.

With this session being held on the eve of Valentine’s Day, we are focusing on how we can bring more love into our life. We will explore the role of acceptance and forgiveness in opening ourselves to experiencing intimacy and love, drawing on an array of basic and advanced NLP skills, likely including Perceptual Positions, anchoring, metaphors, submodalities and language patterns. As usual, this session will be highly interactive.

Our Senior NLP Trainer, Daniel Smith, will be leading the session.

If you have specific issues you want to address, please contact us in advance to we can incorporate those outcomes into the session.

Practitioner of NLP (Beijing)

20 Apr 15
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Learn NLP. Get a better life in every way we can measure and maybe those we can’t.

People like you train with us to think, feel, live and love at their very best. We can help you use your mind and body together with more flexibility, congruence and elegance than ever before.

It’s not magic. It’s just helping you be at your best.

Many people study personal development, psychology and influence for years to improve themselves and their effectiveness with others. Others will choose to transform those decades into days. With us, this starts with two intensive weekends.

You’ll start on Friday afternoon, when you’ll join us at our discrete central location. If you have been to Beijing, you have probably been nearby already. We’ll jump straight in so you’ll be learning from the first moment. While we recommend that you don’t make any big plans during the event, since it’s a big weekend ahead, we’ll send you home by 10pm so you can be ready to start full of energy Saturday morning! Saturday is our longest day, finishing up before dinner so we can finish a little earlier Sunday afternoon. Then there is an extra session on Monday night.

Each session is customised for you and the other participants, so we can’t tell you precisely what we will cover or the sequences we will cover them in. But you will learn to:

  • Change your state in an instant, so you can be at your best on demand,
  • Use precision language to cut through the fluff that leads to uncertainty, misunderstanding and flawed thinking,
  • Shift perspectives and points of view so you can become a more charismatic and persuasive communicator and insightful thinker,
  • Transform your internal representations so that your most important goals become compelling, attractive and attainable, while the anxieties, stressors and issues from the past or future can take their place and not get in your way,
  • Feel more present, more engaged and more connected with yourself and those around you,
  • Harness metaphors in language, thought and behaviour for yourself and others,
  • Transform the past, the present and the future, so you can let go of past guilt, future anxieties and take charge of getting the life you want, and
  • Juggle! Yes, you’ll get the opportunity to learn to juggle. While not a compulsory activity – and it usually requires some practice in your own time – almost everybody ends up being able to juggle.

Learning NLP isn’t for everybody. But if you’re the sort of person that wants to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want, we might just have something that could help get you to where you want to be.

Sessions will present an array of stories and explanations though focused around exercises and experiences designed to help you embody the learning outcomes. No prior reading is required.

Certification

Having completed this training, you will be eligible to be Certified as a Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There is an additional Certification process beyond the training itself, designed to help you integrate and generalise what you have learned. Not everybody who trains with us wants to be Certified, though we don’t charge anything extra and believe it’s a great way for you to make the most of our time together!

Schedule for Fall 2016

21 – 24 October: Friday night 7-9:30pm, Saturday and Sunday 9:30am-5:30pm, Monday night 7-9:30pm
4 – 7 November: Friday night 7-9:30pm, Saturday and Sunday 9:30am-5:30pm, Monday night 7-9:30pm

Language Most trainings are conducted in English, though we can offer support for other languages if you let us know.

Choose Your Commitment

Knowing that the best of the best in any area choose to invest in themselves first, before putting time and money anywhere else, how will you choose to commit to yourself? 

Silver Package ¥13,800

  1. 40 hours of world class NLP Training
  2. Admittance into the NLP Practice Sessions group
  3. Certification as a Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
    (upon completion of the Certification project)

Gold Package ¥14,800

  1. All Silver Package Benefits
  2. Attend two additional practitioner trainings we conduct anywhere in China
  3. Exclusive discounted rate for all specialized China NLP events

Platinum Package ¥20,000

  1. All Gold Package Benefits
  2. Unlimited Access to future Practitioner Trainings
  3. Practitioner Mentorship Program: Personal and small-group sessions for at least 6 months after the training (valued at ¥3000)
  4. Two One-on-One coaching sessions
  5. Exclusive Discount rate for China NLP’s Master Practitioner Training

Money Back Guarantee

We take on the risk. If you aren’t totally immersed in this experience and satisfied with your training after a day with us, just hand in your manual and you can get a FULL REFUND on your investment, no strings attached.  We can offer this because China NLP has years of experience running Leading NLP programs in Asia, training over 100 satisfied students, and we’ve never had a request for a refund. That leaves us confident that you will love the growth you experience with us, and come back again and again.

Daniel Smith

Reserve your seat now: Contact Aaron @ 18516254265 to book your seat!

Your China NLP Training Team:

Daniel Smith. Daniel has been studying NLP since 1996 and training in China since 2008. He has trained with the leading figures in NLP, including being certified as a Trainer of NLP by both Co-Founders, Dr John Grinder and Richard Bandler, and is regarded by many as one of the top NLP trainers based in China.

Aaron Wallace has been leading trainings and workshops in Shanghai for several years. Originally coming to Shanghai to work at Fudan University, Aaron is an active coach and Certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

To apply for your place or to find out more details, we look forward to you taking your first step with us:

 

你将会学到的一些内容(不局限于此)Some of what you can expect to learn

每次的课程都会根据学员的实际需求作适当调整,如下是新编码NLP执行师课程一般会涵盖的内容:Each event is created through aligning the specific intentions of the participants with the areas of skill development. The following are topics and exercises that we typically use:

  • What is New Code NLP? Origins and developments of New Code and how this differs from Classic Code and other NLP.
    什么是新编码NLP?新编码的来源,发展以及与一般NLP的异同
  • Building rapport through state
    通过状态建立亲和感
  • Perceptual Positions
    感知位置
  • Logical Levels
    逻辑层次
  • Working with Intention
    意图
  • New Code Change Format
    新编码改变模式
  • New Code Games
    新编码游戏
  • Accessing High Performance States
    进入高效能状态
  • Sanctuary Pattern
    圣地模式
  • Harnessing Subconscious Signals
    掌握潜意识信号
  • N-Step Reframing Pattern and/or The Healer Within
    N步换框法和/或内在的疗愈师
  • Framing
    设框法
  • Precision Language
    精确语言模式
  • Communicating with and through metaphors
    使用//通过隐喻沟通
  • S-Pattern and Star Pattern
    S模式和星型模式
  • Emergent Discovery Pattern
    潜进发现模式
  • Chain of Excellence
    卓越链

如果你还有其他问题,欢迎随时联系我们,我们将会给予及时的回复!如果你觉得这就是你想要的课程并且准备报名参加,并且需要使用信用卡付款的话,请点击这里,谢谢!

If you’ve got more questions, get in touch and we’ll get right back to you or you can get started when you complete the registration form.

Practitioner of NLP (Chengdu)

20 Apr 15
Daniel
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Learn NLP. Get a better life in every way we can measure and maybe those we can’t.

People like you train with us to think, feel, live and love at their very best. We can help you use your mind and body together with more flexibility, congruence and elegance than ever before.

It’s not magic. It’s just helping you be at your best.

Many people study personal development, psychology and influence for years to improve themselves and their effectiveness with others. Others will choose to transform those decades into days. With us, this starts with two intensive weekends.

You’ll start on Friday afternoon, when you’ll join us at our discrete central location. If you have been to Beijing, you have probably been nearby already. We’ll jump straight in so you’ll be learning from the first moment. While we recommend that you don’t make any big plans during the event, since it’s a big weekend ahead, we’ll send you home by 10pm so you can be ready to start full of energy Saturday morning! Saturday is our longest day, finishing up before dinner so we can finish a little earlier Sunday afternoon. Then there is an extra session on Monday night.

Each session is customised for you and the other participants, so we can’t tell you precisely what we will cover or the sequences we will cover them in. But you will learn to:

  • Change your state in an instant, so you can be at your best on demand,
  • Use precision language to cut through the fluff that leads to uncertainty, misunderstanding and flawed thinking,
  • Shift perspectives and points of view so you can become a more charismatic and persuasive communicator and insightful thinker,
  • Transform your internal representations so that your most important goals become compelling, attractive and attainable, while the anxieties, stressors and issues from the past or future can take their place and not get in your way,
  • Feel more present, more engaged and more connected with yourself and those around you,
  • Harness metaphors in language, thought and behaviour for yourself and others,
  • Transform the past, the present and the future, so you can let go of past guilt, future anxieties and take charge of getting the life you want, and
  • Juggle! Yes, you’ll get the opportunity to learn to juggle. While not a compulsory activity – and it usually requires some practice in your own time – almost everybody ends up being able to juggle.

Learning NLP isn’t for everybody. But if you’re the sort of person that wants to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want, we might just have something that could help get you to where you want to be.

Sessions will present an array of stories and explanations though focused around exercises and experiences designed to help you embody the learning outcomes. No prior reading is required.

Certification

Having completed this training, you will be eligible to be Certified as a Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There is an additional Certification process beyond the training itself, designed to help you integrate and generalise what you have learned. Not everybody who trains with us wants to be Certified, though we don’t charge anything extra and believe it’s a great way for you to make the most of our time together!

Schedule for Summer 2016

26 – 29 August and 9 – 12 September: Friday night 7-9:30pm, Saturday and Sunday 9:30am-5:30pm, Monday night 7-9:30pm

Language Most trainings are conducted in English, though we can offer support for other languages if you let us know.

Choose Your Commitment

Knowing that the best of the best in any area choose to invest in themselves first, before putting time and money anywhere else, how will you choose to commit to yourself? 

Silver Package ¥13,800

  1. 40 hours of world class NLP Training
  2. Admittance into the NLP Practice Sessions group

Gold Package ¥14,800

  1. All Silver Package Benefits
  2. Attend two additional practitioner trainings
  3. Exclusive discounted rate for all specialized China NLP events
  4. Free entrance to 10 Week Mobile Mindfulness Course

Platinum Package ¥20,000

  1. All Gold Package Benefits
  2. Unlimited Access to future Practitioner Trainings
  3. Access to the Practitioner Mentorship Program
  4. Access to a full day of Self-Hypnosis Training
  5. Two One2One coaching sessions
  6. Exclusive Discount rate for China NLP’s Master Practitioner Training

Money Back Guarantee

We take on the risk. If you aren’t totally immersed in this experience and satisfied with your training after a day with us, just hand in your manual and you can get a FULL REFUND on your investment, no strings attached.  We can offer this because China NLP has years of experience running Leading NLP programs in Asia, training over 100 satisfied students, and we’ve never had a request for a refund. That leaves us confident that you will love the growth you experience with us, and come back again and again.

Daniel Smith

Reserve your seat now: Contact Aaron @ 18516254265 to book your seat!

Your China NLP Training Team:

Daniel Smith. Daniel has been studying NLP since 1996 and training in China since 2008. He has trained with the leading figures in NLP, including being certified as a Trainer of NLP by both Co-Founders, Dr John Grinder and Richard Bandler, and is regarded by many as one of the top NLP trainers based in China.

Aaron Wallace has been leading trainings and workshops in Shanghai for several years. Originally coming to Shanghai to work at Fudan University, Aaron is an active coach and Certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

To apply for your place or to find out more details, we look forward to you taking your first step with us:

 

你将会学到的一些内容(不局限于此)Some of what you can expect to learn

每次的课程都会根据学员的实际需求作适当调整,如下是新编码NLP执行师课程一般会涵盖的内容:Each event is created through aligning the specific intentions of the participants with the areas of skill development. The following are topics and exercises that we typically use:

  • What is New Code NLP? Origins and developments of New Code and how this differs from Classic Code and other NLP.
    什么是新编码NLP?新编码的来源,发展以及与一般NLP的异同
  • Building rapport through state
    通过状态建立亲和感
  • Perceptual Positions
    感知位置
  • Logical Levels
    逻辑层次
  • Working with Intention
    意图
  • New Code Change Format
    新编码改变模式
  • New Code Games
    新编码游戏
  • Accessing High Performance States
    进入高效能状态
  • Sanctuary Pattern
    圣地模式
  • Harnessing Subconscious Signals
    掌握潜意识信号
  • N-Step Reframing Pattern and/or The Healer Within
    N步换框法和/或内在的疗愈师
  • Framing
    设框法
  • Precision Language
    精确语言模式
  • Communicating with and through metaphors
    使用//通过隐喻沟通
  • S-Pattern and Star Pattern
    S模式和星型模式
  • Emergent Discovery Pattern
    潜进发现模式
  • Chain of Excellence
    卓越链

如果你还有其他问题,欢迎随时联系我们,我们将会给予及时的回复!如果你觉得这就是你想要的课程并且准备报名参加,并且需要使用信用卡付款的话,请点击这里,谢谢!

If you’ve got more questions, get in touch and we’ll get right back to you; If you already know that this is just what you’re after, you’re ready to register and want to pay by credit card, please click here:


If you’d prefer another payment method, you can start when you complete the registration form and we’ll get in touch to arrange payment.

What do you want?

14 Jun 16
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My exploration of Neuro-Linguistic Programming has been in service of one basic desire: I want to help make genius a choice. At least that’s how it started for me.

But what do you want?

Just because I’m interested in making genius a choice doesn’t mean you are! In fact you almost certainly don’t.

Sure, not everybody has explicit, well-designed goals with Gantt charts, identified resources and contingencies plans. But even in reading this article you have objectives. And we can use those to illustrate this aspect of NLP: What do you want to get from today?

As you take a moment to answer this question, please let yourself go beyond the first thing that comes to mind. You might want to write down your answers too.

 

For as long as I can remember, I have loved martial arts. Having trained in martial arts for most of my life, when I walked into my first Aikido class I saw things differently to the way many people might see things. I didn’t just see a bunch of people being thrown around the room: I saw some techniques I recognised from my previous training, footwork, presence and some things that seemed very strange. I enjoyed being there and decided that I wanted to start training myself.

From when I stepped onto the dojo the next session, I learnt many things. And one thing I realised very quickly is that this is not a spectator sport. Sure, you can enjoy watching the show as an observer. And you can get an important perspective from that angle. But if you really want to experience the Art and Science, you have to participate.

Most karate training remains a dynamic between “attacker” and “defender”. Somebody attacks. Then their partner practises defending against that attack, during which period the ‘attacker’ becomes little more than a crash test dummy. Sometimes in the same exercise, for example in sparring, you and your partner will alternate attacking and defending. And that is a simple dynamic that works well.

Aikido is very different.

Rather than the attacker-defender relationship we have the Uke-Nage relationship. The Uke might begin by grabbing or striking the Nage, in response to which the Nage will apply their chosen technique or strategy. And on the surface this looks much like the attacker-defender relationship.

However there is a big difference: Both Uke and Nage are learning and practising. To fully understand any technique it is important to understand the technique from the perspective of both Uke and Nage. And through experiencing these differences we are able to learn the essence of the technique itself.

Now, back to it: What are your outcomes?

Now that you have at least a few outcomes, let’s explore them in a bit more detail, perhaps starting with thinking about what seems to be your most important outcome:

  1. What do you want that for?
    If you had that outcome, what would that give you? And if you had that, what would that allow you to experience that is even more important still? Please be aware that I’m not asking you your reasons or causes or justifications for that outcome: I’m not asking “why?” While doubtless you have your reasons, I want to know your intention or purpose. You can repeat that line of questioning until you can’t go any further: See how far you can go. This could well develop into something of a hierarchy of intentions.
  2. How would it be if you had that?
    What would it look like? Sound like? Feel like? If you had your outcome, how would you even know? Feel free to describe with as much sensory-specific language as you can how you would know that you had your outcome.
  3. If you had those outcomes what difference would it make?
    Choosing any level of the hierarchy, what consequences would having that have for you? What would you do differently? How would you feel or think or behave as a result?

While these seem very simple questions, by thinking things through you might be able to better understand yourself. You can start defining your outcomes in a more achievable way. You might even recognise some resources, strategies of ways you have to get what you want sooner or easier or with fewer downsides.