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Annoyed to calm with OIC

19 Sep 14

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One of the exercises I use most something we call the “OIC” (short for “Outcome, Intentions, Consequences”). This process looks to understand the intention of what you are doing now. After all, any behaviour has a positive intention, doesn’t it? On Monday night, we were reviewing how to lead someone – a client, direct report or even friend – through this process. The participant who ‘volunteered’ for the demonstration was getting “annoyed” by how long it took her to get to work. For many of us, the typical response is to empathise, to acknowledge that catching the subway to work can be annoying, and then maybe to give suggestions.

And that’s fine. That response is a choice.
Except that for many people, it’s the only ‘choice’ they have. And if you’ve only got one response, you don’t have a choice, do you?

By applying OIC, we were able to discover that what they really wanted was to experience ‘reflection’ and ultimately a sense of ‘calm’ that she couldn’t quite describe. And while doing the state of “annoyed” wasn’t giving her the results she wanted, her higher intention was very clear! By the end of the short exercise, instead of dreading or perhaps tolerating, our client was looking forward to her next trip to work.

This is a simple example of the sort of changes we do throughout our NLP Practitioner training. And since we have quite a few people interested in getting the benefits of the finest NLP training available in English in China (and we believe, in Asia!) we have decided to offer another training before the end of the year.

This will be your last chance to join our intimate, personalised and profoundly transformative experiences for the next six months. So please check your calendar for the weekends of:

  • 31 October – 3 November, and
  • 7 – 10 November

As usual, we intend to offer these sessions on Friday evenings, all-day Saturday and Sunday, and Monday evenings, so you don’t need to take any time off from work.

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